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Thoughts On Being A Father

Barbito's Corner — Sun, 10 May 2009 13:33:43 +0000

Raising kids for anyone is a tough and difficult task. The needs of children cannot go unmet nor disregarded. In many homes today, many parents struggle to make ends meet and now during the state of the global economy, those challenges have reached new levels of complexity. It takes more than one even two people to raise a child… A village is needed for every child. A village provides several mothers and fathers for a child. A village reinforces values, beliefs, and ideas that need to be instilled in a child. A village teaches the members within it how to fellowship with one another and compromise when it’s in the best interest for the child.

I understand that being a father goes beyond the biological understanding we have about parenting. I am a father to my biological siblings’ children. I am a father to my spiritual family’s children. I am a father to every child that I have the opportunity to interact with. I know that every encounter in life provides the opportunity for me to give and receive from every child. And, I intend to build on each opportunity that is given to me. Men, children today need fathers. They need our guidance, our understanding, our patience, and our wisdom. Take the time to share with them.

Peace

Man Law: Scrapbooks

Barbito's Corner — Sat, 02 May 2009 18:53:37 +0000

Women, I know that if you are involved with a man, at some point you are going to want to start saving and collecting little things and pictures from places you’ve been together and moments that are memorable. Well, I think that’s great! I do! And most men think that it’s good to keep a record of the memories that establishes a chronology for their lives. But, men are not the ones to ask in helping put together that scrapbook. We don’t do scrapbooks. We desire little to no participation in such activities. If you ask us for things that can go in the scrapbook, that’s cool. But women, don’t ask us to sit down to put together a scrapbook with you. It’s not in our nature. That may have been something we did with interest growing up but we quickly grow out of that phase. So, for future reference women, men don’t do scrapbooks!

Barbito’s Corner

Man Law: Men Buying Men Birthday Cards

Barbito's Corner — Sat, 02 May 2009 18:35:22 +0000

I had a discussion with the Wifey one day when I was mentioning that one of my Brothers’ birthday was coming up. She asked was I going to buy him a birthday card and it left me dumbfounded for a second. I responded by saying no and she asked why. I informed her, men don’t buy men birthday cards.
We will wish them well on their birthday but, no card. So women, Men don’t buy men birthday cards. That’s a universal law. If a man receives a birthday card with a man’s name attached to it, it’s usually a woman who bought the card and wrote his name on it or he was asked to sign it. Truthfully, most men have a hard time buying women cards much less than buying a card for a man!

Barbito

Sleeping Beauty

Barbito's Corner — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 05:46:53 +0000

Men, don’t think that you are alone. Almost every woman has a back up plan! Almost every woman. And when I say back up plan, I mean a male "friend" or male "friends" they can replace you with if you are slacking on your job in your relationship or even marriage. I call this male friend "Plan B", Jody- a guy that they can talk to about general stuff and your relationship with your woman. This guy knows you, everything she likes that you do right, and most importantly, everything you do wrong. This guy learns to listen to her… something you might not be doing. Those conversations with her are his training sessions for he is not quite ready to fill the shoes of being her #1 guy. She has to groom him and build him up to where she wants him to be. Men, understand, women are much smarter than us. And they do not wait to the last minute to make decisions. They think ahead unlike us. I find it amusing when I hear different guys boast and brag about the control and grip they think they have on their so-called relationships. They are still in the dark. Trust, the insight I have on the topic come from different women from all walks of life. Most women will maintain their commitment with men until things begin to get too sour and they see little to no changes or hope. The lesser time you men are spending with your women, the more opportunity you leave for that "Plan B" guy to grow and develop and take that #1 spot…yours. Men, Listen to your woman, talk to your woman. Spend time with your woman and express yourself to her. For, Jody, that "Plan B" guy is waiting on the bench for his turn…

Peace